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Live to be forgotten?

Whether it’s at a reunion celebration or a celebration of life service, most of us like to be remembered. In fact, we intentionally plan to be remembered by living a life of legacy that extends beyond our earthly years. While few of us will have large hospitals or libraries bearing our name, we hope to leave a legacy at our work, in our family, and in our church and community. After we’ve gone our legacy is based on our accomplishments, our character and the choices we made. That legacy is influenced largely by how we treat people, especially those who have no chance or power to advance our cause. Jesus said it is how we treat “the least of these” that matters greatly. Relationship are all we take to heaven.

And yet how quickly legacies turn from current memory to forgotten history. Do you remember the surge of national patriotism the days following the 9/11 attacks? And do you remember how quickly the unity dispersed and divisiveness again swept our country? Who will remember the history you experienced? Sacrifices made for just causes, values upheld in the face of persecution, faith in the middle of stormy life events, love and peace amidst the chaos of divisiveness.

The Israelites wandered in the desert for forty years. Some died and others were born in the desert, having no recollection of the miraculous way God rescued them from the Egyptians. They were exiled into Babylon for seventy years. Entire generations  lived to be born and die in captivity. They had no personal experience with life “back home.” Only the legacy of faithfulness sustained them in tough times.

When I die, I suppose there will be friends and family who remember me. Hopefully their memories will be ones of kindness, compassion, passion for living well, and other positive attributes. I hope they will carry those same attributes and pass them on as the legacy they leave.

But should we live to be remembered? Is that the primary goal?

Count Zinzendorf was evidently a wealthy religious and social reformer of his 18th century times. His theology was Christ-centered, and he emphasized a “radical” lifestyle of “living for Jesus.” He is quoted to have summarized the goal of life simply as:

“Preach the gospel, die, and be forgotten.”

Live and love with one solitary purpose, to preach the gospel, not only in words but in the harmonious ways Jesus guides our relationships with others. LI’ve, really live all out for Jesus and then die with the goal of being forgotten. Really? Why should be aim to be forgotten? It is so that every bit of pride may be swept away. So that when people remember you, what they really remember is how God moved through your life, how he helped and inspired others through you. It’s the outcome that follow’s John the Baptist’s conclusion that “He (Jesus) must become greater and greater, and I must become less.” (John 3:30) It is Paul’s message to each of us to consider the interests of others as greater than our own, love without grumbling, and consider everything we do as unto the Lord, for his purpose. (Philippians 2:2-16, Colossians 3:17)

So while our prideful self wants to remembered and our name to be preserved, how much better if what people remember most is God’s goodness revealed in our lives. His ways are higher than our ways and so leaving a legacy of God’s great love is our most prized goal. May your legacy and mine be marked by kindness, strong faith, persistent prayer, compassion for the needy, wholesome laughter, and quality time enjoying time with friends and family. Long after your name and mine are forgotten may the legacy that lives on be one of faith, hope, and love.

Especially love!

The sum of a life

 

 

We recently took a walk in the cemetery and read the markings on the memorial stones. Some listed the person’s primary role and how they were remembered: “Mother.” “Father.” One had an etching of a golfer which must have been that person’s driving life passion (no pun intended). Some displayed the emblem of a club to which they belonged, some a veteran’s status. Many tombstones record just the names and birth and death dates with a dash in between. Linda Ellis wrote a now famous poem about this all important ‘dash in between’ the dates that represents how we lived our life.*

 

I was soberly reminded of a truth when recently reading an obituary. The sum of a whole life was quickly summed up in two paragraphs. And one of those was a list of those who came before and those who are left to follow, leaving just one paragraph to sum up an entire life.

 

It is probably unrealistic to expect an obituary or tombstone to sum up a whole life. Hopefully, the impact of a life could not be fully captured so simply. But how does one measure a lifetime of ambitions, hopes, aspirations, toil, sorrow, joy, and purpose?

 

How do you want to be remembered? For your hobbies, your belongings, your accomplishments, or that neatly trimmed yard? Isn’t a life lived well truly measured by how it impacts those around us and those who come behind us? Shouldn’t the focus of our life testify to such a great and wonderful God? And if it is lived for God, doesn’t it reach well beyond our own life to encourage those across the globe, those far beyond our familial circle of influence? Those who support GLOW, impact the lives of children across the globe, bringing hope, truth, grace, and practical helps. They change lives they have never (yet) met! (See the Ministries and Giving tabs above.). Those who support children through Compassion International and World Vision have similar global impact.

 

One day, there will be a great meeting in heaven of all whose lives you impacted, for a season and for all eternity. So before someone marks your final date, give thought to how you want to live “the dash in between.” Live your ‘dash’ intentionally today, and all your tomorrows.

 

“I eagerly expect and hope that I will in no way be ashamed, but will have sufficient courage so that now as always Christ will be exalted (honored) in my body, whether by life or by death. For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. If I am to go on living in the body, this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet what shall I choose? I do not know! I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far; but it is more necessary for you that I remain in the body.” Philippians 1:20-24

 

* See also Linda Ellis’ poem, The Dash, at:
http://www.linda-ellis.com/the-dash-the-dash-poem-by-linda-ellis-.html