Monthly Archives: December 2012

Did you hear the one about the Muslim, the Christian, and the Jew?

It sounds like the opening of a bad joke, but in this case, it is part of the continuing story that God is weaving around this “bump in our road.” Yesterday, we shared the story of an interesting conversation with a stranger who is Muslim. Today brought another unexpected conversation, this time with a Jewish man.

It had been a good day, though tiring. Marcia had just left to return to Newton and I was resting when a young man stopped by to visit me. I thought to myself, “I don’t know this guy from Adam,” and then he introduces himself saying, “Hi, my name is Adam.” He proceeded to tell me that he volunteers here to get more hospital experience as part of his college studies.

He asked me how I was doing and I told him the absolute truth: that I am doing great because God has been so merciful to me in this medical situation. I must have said something about Jesus strengthening me, because he replied, “I’m Jewish.” With no sense of God’s hand over my mouth today and with a feeling of Judeo-Christian connectedness to this man, I shared how I too believe in the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.

I told him that it was the very testimonies of faith of the Old Testament (his Jewish Bible) that spoke so clearly to me in my hospital stay, briefly citing three examples:

  • Abraham was ‘fully persuaded’ that God had power to do what He promised.
  • Joshua pursued wisdom, courage, and strength in his time of need. (See our earlier blog about this.)
  • Daniel’s contemporaries maintained strong faith in the midst of a (literally) fiery trial.

But the puzzled look on his face stopped me. He told me he didn’t know these stories and that it had been a long time since he had been to “services.” He quickly added that as a Jewish man he did observe certain customs and traditions.

Seeking one more attempt to link with this young man, I told him how my Jewish “aunt” would say, “We all hold pieces of each other’s puzzle,” that each of us were given ‘extra’ pieces to share with others. He said that he had never thought of life that way, that it must be true, and that he would have to think about that.

He changed the subject to the pictures on the table of my family and left shortly after. And I thought to myself about the difference between the tradition of going to church (thinking that God lives in a building) and experiencing a real personal relationship with the one true living and loving God.

Faith is belief that we act on. It is like a muscle; the more we exercise it, the stronger it becomes.

Conversation With A Stranger

Part of my treatment plan is walking the halls. Usually I am able to slowly walk the equivalent of about 1 1/2 blocks and back again, four times a day. Marcia and I like to greet people and if possible brighten their day. Earlier this week we saw a young man waiting at the elevators and I asked a simple question:

“How is your day going?”

He started to tell me that his wife had undergone eight months of treatment for cancer and she was having another test that day. We talked about the difficulties we sometimes face in life and I asked him if he had a church in the area. He replied, “I am Muslim.” I asked him how his faith helps him in this struggle he and his wife are facing and he proceeded to tell me about how “The One God” rewards him for the good things he does. Surprisingly, this stranger then commented, “I know you are a good man and The God will heal you.” He went on to say that he had once read the old and new testaments of the Bible and compared it with the Koran’s message of love.

At this point, I wanted to say so much more, but felt God was putting His hand over my mouth saying, “Bryan, slow down. See if you can be friends, Christian and Muslim, and let me take it from there.”

The man was pleased to let us pray for him and his wife, so I asked our One True God to reveal more of Himself to both of them so as to bless them. And then the most unusual thing happened. This stranger wrote his name, address, and phone number on a piece of paper, handing it to me and said, “When you get out of the hospital I want you and your wife to be guests in our home.”

Sometimes the simplest of gestures will take you on an unexpected journey.

Reset – Reboot – Restore

A number of folks have asked about the status of my condition and what comes next. I welcome any corrections from my medically smarty friends but here is how we understand the situation.

The intent of the seven days of chemo was to ‘reset’ my immune system. In a “burn the field” approach it basically kills off all the good and bad blood cells that my bone marrow was generating and gives it a chance to start over.

As the latent effect of the chemo continues to work on my system, my body is ‘rebooting’ and my medical team is constantly monitoring my blood levels and vitals. I get blood transfusions as I need them. I have no restrictions on healthy visitors but the main risk now is not the Leukemia but infection.

In the next week, my body should start to ‘restore’ itself, hopefully producing only healthy blood cells. They will take another bone marrow sample to test this. I will be in the hospital for awhile yet. I typically have enough strength to slowly walk 1/4 mile 3-4 times a day.

Because there are evidently only a dozen or so known cases in the world of my particular strain of Leukemia, I will go to the U Of I research hospital for followup in January. I think more information about prognosis and treatment might possibly be made known then. Likely, there will be another 3-4 months of consolidation chemo (5 days each month).

Reset-Reboot-Restore. In the days before my diagnosis God spoke to Marcia and me about some other things in our lives He wanted to reset, reboot, and restore…for His pleasure and for ours. It is a wonderful experience to stop the merry-go-round and pause for internal reflection and consider what changes God desires to bring you greater joy.

“Do you have any questions?”

I love to laugh and without doubt the funniest story so far in this journey through cancer is when our eldest son went to talk with his children about my illness. He told them he needed them to turn off the Wii game they were playing and then proceeded to tell them very calmly but seriously that Grandpa Thayer was in the hospital and very ill. Being very careful to make sure they understood the gravity of the situation he then asked, “Do you have ANY questions?” After a long pause, one of my granddaughters who adores me asked…
“Can we turn our game back on now?” 🙂

The first 7 day round of chemo went exceedingly well. Other than being tired and the stomach (etc) problems caused by the chemo and high powered antibiotics, I have little complaint. I have an excellent TEAM of nurses and technicians, housekeepers, dietary staff, etc who pay close attention to my every need. And of course, I simply cannot imagine going through this without the undying love and support of my absolutely AMAZING wife.

To answer some questions:
1. There are no restrictions on visitors other than they must be COMPLETELY healthy (no sniffles or anything) because my immune system will be at zero by weekend. Yes, visits tire me out but they also pump me up. Just like the animals at the zoo, I am generally most active in the morning.
2. My appetite is good though I continue to struggle to maintain weight. I cannot eat fresh fruit or vegetables and cannot have live plants.
3. I take four 1/4 mile walks a day for exercise. This is also part of my new volunteer job as “Mercy Hospital Smile Checker.”
4. I expect to enjoy my beautiful hospital suite (rm 817) into the first part of January unless God chooses to do a miracle in my body sooner.
5. God has quickly turned any disappointment into joy of HIS appointment. (See earlier blog)

Wisdom – Courage – Strength

Since I accepted the Lord at age 15 I have consistently asked God for three things in my life, based on Joshua 1:6-9. . .
Wisdom (implied)
Courage
Strength.

I’ve always known that if I had riches or talent without these things they would be worthless, and if I had these three I needn’t be concerned with anything else. Now, believe me, there was a LOT of turning to the right and left (v7) in my life! You have no way of knowing how much I turned from God or ignored Him. Even as a “devoted follower” it seems I could not consistently ‘stay awake’ while He prayed in the garden for me. But nonetheless, God has been faithful and ever patient and gracious to grant me my three requests.

On the day of admission to the hospital, my nurse walked into the consultation room wearing a necklace with three words inscribed:
Wisdom
Courage
Strength

I was stunned by this gentle reminder that God has been, is, and will always be faithful no matter what life or cancer throws my way. One day since my diagnosis of Leukemia and I am already on my way to getting treatment!

A Funny Thing Happened On The Way To Bolivia

You know the experience… you plan and work toward a goal, and just when you think you are close, life throws you a curve ball and changes the plan. In our case, we were following the call we received to pursue full-time ministry in Bolivia, when a week ago Bryan (who never gets sick) was unexpectedly diagnosed with a rare form of Leukemia.

Disappointment or HIS Appointment? One letter makes all the difference in the world! We are of course heart-broken at what we believe is a delay in God’s call to Bolivia. But almost immediately we understood that had we pushed this door open more quickly than we should, we could have been in a third world country without the ability to quickly diagnose or treat this condition. Disappointment was replaced with HIS appointment …God’s plan to protect and provide for His children.

God has also reminded us that EACH of us has a mission field right where we live. We have always stated this on our Go Light Your World website, but now it has become a reality. What does it mean to shine light into the darkness of others’ lives right where we live…to bring hope and encouragement where it is desperately needed every day?

These posts will reflect our journey. We invite you to add your thoughts so we can learn from each other.

Bryan and Marcia Thayer