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Be who you were meant to be


Have you ever wondered why other people could come to such outrageous conclusions, only to realize in a moment of humble revelation that your own way of thinking is a bit odd from their perspective? Some of us perceive the world primarily through thoughts and ideas while others are more oriented to experiencing the world according to their emotions. Some people are descriptively detailed in their flowery and poetic accounts of things while others are more like Jack Webb: “Just give me the facts, Ma’am.”


The truth is we’re wired differently in how we think and respond. And that’s okay. None of us perceive the world perfectly through God’s eyes, so he gave us each other, in our different make up, to help each other grow in understanding. We need the assertive as well as the shy. We need those who think more deeply and somberly as well as those who see happiness more easily.


Sometimes we wish we were more like someone else. And maybe that’s a good thing if they are responding to God in an honoring way and we aren’t. We can learn from them but we’re not called to be them. We’re called to be who God made us.


Being the person you were meant to be sometimes involves change. Like Nala told Simba in the Lion King, “You’re more than who you’ve become.” Deep within us is call to become all God designed us to be. Becoming all we were meant to be requires tossing off immature ways of thinking and behaving that are not helpful. We weren’t created to be impatient, frustrated, bitter, angry, selfish, or grumpy. Gossiping, complaining, judging, lying, and cheating are not the hallmarks of our design. Thank God he can change those if we surrender them to him. All of these are reprogrammable by the renewing of our mind.


You may be shy and want to be assertive. You may be impetuous and impulsive and want to learn patience and self-discipline. You may be quick to arrive at answers while others are more cautious and hesitant in their response. You may tend toward feelings depression and want to be happy. And you can learn to adapt in ways that bring balance your life. But rather than seeking to become someone else, seek to become who you were called be. Don’t settle for less.


Live in a way that reflects to others that God has brought you to himself, through Christ who is our hope in glory. (Colossians 1:27) Live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God. Live a life worthy of the calling you have received. (Colossians 1:10, Ephesians 4:1)


Be more than you’ve become. Be all that God created you to be!

The Secret of Life

In the movie City Slickers, the tough guy Curly turns to Mitch and asks him, “Do you know what the secret of life is?” Holding up a finger he answers his own question saying, “This.” Mitch asks, “Your finger?” Ignoring him Curly replies, “One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and the rest (doesn’t matter at all).” (Paraphrased) Mitch presses on asking, “But what’s ‘the one thing’?” Curly answers, “That’s what you have to find out.”

Have you discovered ‘the one thing’ in your life? That thing which, at the end of life, and through it, matters the very most to you?

Leadership guru and former pastor John Maxwell talks about how our lives are summed up in just 6-7 words…those words that will fit on our tombstone. He adds, “You can either let someone else choose them when you die or you can choose them now and live your life by them.”

I used to have a book of Yankee epitaphs, real inscriptions on the tombstones of New Englanders. Some of them were silly and some were serious. One said, “I TOLD you I was sick!” Another one was a boulder that simply said, “This one’s on me.” One of my favorites was the one written about John Pease who enjoyed MORE than seven words:
“Under the sod and under the trees
Lies the body of Jonathan Pease.
Pease is not there, there’s only the pod.
Pease shelled out and went to God.”

If someone else looked at your activities, how would they summarize your life?
Sure made a lot of money.
Was a dedicated worker.
One of the busiest people in town.
Keeper of a cute and tidy house.
Best bridge player in the community.
Devoted to family.
Loved unconditionally.
Loved God – Loved Others.
Faithful – Beloved- Missed

What words would you choose to reflect your ‘one thing?’ Choose these now and live by them and you might just discover the secret of life.

“Live a life worthy of the calling you have received.”
Ephesians 4:1b